I will be referring a lot to the three selves (physical, emotional and conceptual). When discussing this with my partner and the best way to explain the three selves he referred me to the study of 'The Triune Brain'. I did some research and the information below will help you to understand about the three selves when we get deeper into conversation...

The Reptilian Complex (PHYSICAL)
The R-complex consists of the brain stem and the cerebellum. Its purpose is closely related to actual physical survival and maintenance of the body. The cerebellum orchestrates movement. Digestion, reproduction, circulation, breathing, and the execution of the "fight or flight" response in stress are all housed in the brain stem. Because the reptilian brain is primarily concerned with physical survival, the behaviors it governs have much in common with the survival behaviors of animals. It plays a crucial role in establishing home territory, reproduction and social dominance. The overriding characteristics of R-complex behaviors are that they are automatic, have a ritualistic quality, and are highly resistant to change. 

The Limbic System  (EMOTIONAL)
The limbic system, the second brain to evolve, houses the primary centers of emotion. It includes the amygdala, which is important in the association of events with emotion, and the hippocampus, which is active in converting information into long term memory and in memory recall. Repeated use of specialized nerve networks in the hippocampus enhances memory storage, so this structure is involved in learning from both commonplace experiences and deliberate study. However, it is not necessary to retain every bit of information one learns. Some neuroscientists believe that the hippocampus helps select which memories are stored, perhaps by attaching an "emotion marker" to some events so that they are likely to be recalled. The amygdala comes into play in situations that arouse feelings such as fear, pity, anger, or outrage. Damage to the amygdala can abolish an emotion-charged memory. Because the limbic system links emotions with behavior, it serves to inhibit the R-complex and its preference for ritualistic, habitual ways of responding.

The limbic system is also involved in primal activities related to food and sex, particularly having to do with our sense of smell and bonding needs, and activities related to expression and mediation of emotions and feelings, including emotions linked to attachment. These protective, loving feelings become increasingly complex as the limbic system and the neocortex link up.

The Neocortex  (CONCEPTUAL)
Also called the cerebral cortex, the neocortex constitutes five-sixths of the human brain. It is the outer portion of our brain, and is approximately the size of a newspaper page crumpled together. The neocortex makes language, including speech and writing possible. It renders logical and formal operational thinking possible and allows us to see ahead and plan for the future. The neocortex also contains two specialized regions, one dedicated to voluntary movement and one to processing sensory information.

The next step we are going to take is really finding out who we are. Right to our core. The first thing we need to do is take a personality test. This thing is UNREAL! It will define you to your core. You really need to do this to open your eyes to who you are, why you do things the way you do, your weaknesses and your strengths. When you finish, it will give you 4 letters, which is your personality type. Post them below with your email address and I will send you some seriously cool information about yourself...

Take the test here - http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp

You deserve true happiness, we spend a lot of time wondering what that really means, and when and if we will ever really find it. The answer is YES. You can and will find it. It may not be easy, but you will get there. You just need to work a few things out along the way, but its there, waiting for you.

I believe the first step in finding true happiness, love and having great relationships is really working out who you are to your core. Once you know and understand yourself you can really being to expand yourself on all levels to reach your full potential in relationships, love, your career, your passions and life itself.

We all fit into one of three beings. Physical, emotional and conceptual. One of these three is our main being, we all have a secondary, and we all have a shadow, which is our weakness.

How do I know what I am? Here’s a little explanation on each…

Physical – Physical people a simply, well… physical people. They are focus on all things physical, they look after their body and their health and are very active. They would rather be outdoors, working with their hands, going on an adventure and going to the gym.

Emotional – Emotional people act predominately on their emotions. They feel. They take words and actions of others to heart. They sense when another is upset or something is not right with someone close to them. They are sensitive.

Conceptual – A conceptual person is one who uses their mind and intellect. They base decisions and discussions on pure logic.

You will automatically know which of the three you are, you may have to think a little harder about your secondary, but you will know your weakness. So identify your main self, then your weakness and your secondary will then make sense.

Use and develop your strengths! But more importantly, you need to work on your weaknesses. Some of the best advice I have ever received was “Focus on your strengths in business and focus on your weakness in relationships.” This couldn’t be more true.

Our relationship is the foundation of our life. If you can work on and strengthen aspects and issues within your relationship, the rest of your life will naturally follow. Think about it, when there is conflict in your relationship, how is the rest of your life doing? When your relationship is really good, how is the rest of your life doing? Whether we are physical, emotional or conceptual beings, it is true on a deep level.

So the first thing I want you to do is to define yourself. What is your main being? Physical, Emotional or Conceptual? Then what is your secondary? Now what is your weakness? We are going to talk about that....